*edit* i’m so so silly! here’s a LINK to the FILM!:
part of the reason why we agreed to make is bc there’s a lot of judgement/hate against cisgender bi & queer people in the gay community. not exclusively from, but especially from young, confused, and angry gay males. its one of those little white elephant issues that creeps into our community, and we all know someone who has been affected by it. unfortunately and ironically, its classic patriarchy that makes gay people feel entitled to tell other LGBTQ people how they should live or who they should love. its unfortunate and ironic that this stigma within our community even exists altogether… but it does. and because of our specific job titles in the adult industry, it’s something that is very real to us as a prevalent negative outside factor in our lives. this is not a complaint, just an unfortunate truth being explained.
yes, i am biologically female, and i’m also pansexual. yes, Sebastian is biologically male, but he is also a masculine queer man. and where we’re at right now is we happen to be in a M/F relationship w/each other, bc we’re in love each other. it’s as simple as that. Bed Party shows how we express our love and sexuality to each other, bc we often get asked “how” and “why” our relationship works.
we encourage others to break free of the labels & forced shame that people may place on you. be who you are and love who you love! we have met so many wonderful people of all sexualities and gender identities over the years who tell us stories of how they’ve gotten shade from their community for trying to step out of their normal box of sexuality, or how they’ve had to hide who they really were because they thought they couldn’t live a “normal” life and find someone who would truly love and accept them for them. we made this film to prove that that is absolutely, unequivocally, not true and doesn’t have to be the case! personal sexuality is ever evolving just like how life is ever evolving. your sexuality should evolve alongside your partners just how your lives evolve together over time, it’s a gift you share with each other. always remember that.
this film was a huge risk for us. we share our lives with you via social networking daily. we share our bodies with you, and especially as BDSM performers our vulnerabilities, pain, suffering, weaknesses and triumphs. you’ve seen us gag. you’ve seen us cry. you’ve seen us break. even our daily routine is something a lot of people follow. therefore, our relationship, our love, it’s our crown jewel. it’s our one sacred, special thing we have just for ourselves, to keep to ourselves. we don’t *have* to share with anyone else, even though we share our physical bodies with you all every day. we don’t mind it though, because we love what we do. and the fun and thrill of our job is something we share and bond over as well. we’re so, so lucky.
so to invite you into our home, and literally into our bedroom, you see where we sleep, you see where we eat, then to take it a step further and share the way WE have sex, the way WE love each other, well, it was a scary thing. if you guys didn’t like it, if you didn’t like “us”, who we really are out of character, even if you didn’t care for our choice of bedroom curtains, we’d literally hear about it for the rest of our lives. we were nervous and told Shine and Jiz so. however, you have to trust. you have to trust that the moment you’re in is perfect for whatever reason it’s happening for. and we trust and love Shine and Jiz.
loving someone deeply gives your strength. being loved by someone deeply gives you courage. so we went for it. and now here we are.
thank you from the bottom of our hearts for the 2014 Feminist Porn Award. it means so much more to us than you think and we are truly honored to be recognized.
Eden and Sebastian
Dr. Suzy Show’s “Kinkiest Committed Couple 2014”